Stonewalling: Understanding and Overcoming Communication Barriers in Relationships
You’ve been together for years, yet somehow the space between you feels wider than ever. Last night’s conversation didn’t end in a fight. It ended in nothing. Your partner went quiet, looked away, and left you standing in the kitchen wondering what just happened. This pattern has a name. It’s called stonewalling, and it may […]
Contempt in Relationships: The Silent Killer of Love
She rolled her eyes before he finished speaking. It was a small gesture. Almost imperceptible. But Marcus caught it from across the dinner table, and something inside him went cold. He’d been explaining why he was late getting home. A meeting that ran over. Traffic on the FDR. Reasonable explanations. True explanations. And his wife […]
Gottman 4 Horsemen NYC: Battling Divorce
Your partner rolled their eyes during your anniversary dinner at Gramercy Tavern. The reservation you’d made six weeks ago. The evening you’d both protected from work obligations, phones silenced, the whole night carved out for connection. And still, somewhere between the appetizer and the main course, you said something that triggered that look. Not the […]
Mid-Life Ma’amhood: The New Midlife Crisis for Gen X Women
We all have an image of what a straight man going through a midlife crisis looks like. He is desperately trying to remember what it was like to be young as he drives his new sports car as fast as possible down the street. Shotgun might be a young woman he just acquired after deciding […]
Gen X and Boomer Parents: Tips to Help Avoid Resentment
I got into a fistfight with the literal “boy next door” when I was 10 years old, which left my eye slightly injured. Although I can’t recall the specifics of the fight, I do recall that I believed he had won fair and square. The following week, everything had been forgotten, and we were once again having […]
Banishing the Toxic Critic in Your Mind
“If you think you’re enlightened, spend a week with your family.” ~ Ram Dass It was exciting to go away to college. You were leaving home to meet new people and do things that had nothing to do with your childhood. But you were an adult, so you were ready to leave families you loved […]
How to Stop the Blame Game in Your Relationship
Placing Blame in Relationships: A Persistent Problem By the time most couples seek therapy, we imagine the conflict has been brewing for one partner for a while. Rarely is it their first disagreement, and blame-based patterns have emerged. Partners often come to therapy feeling that the other person is to blame for all the problems […]
Is My Parent a Narcissist? Transforming Relationships Through Schema Therapy
Couples Therapy in NYC: Tales for Lovebirds If you and your partner are perched atop a Manhattan tower, squinting across the skyline and wondering, “Is my parent a narcissist or the Statue of Liberty?” this article is your compass. Brace yourself for a unique odyssey through the labyrinthine city of parental narcissism. Do you have […]
How Narcissists Make You Feel
Understanding the Emotional Impact of Narcissists on Relationships in NYC In recent years, the term ‘narcissism’ has catapulted into the limelight, much like ‘yuppie’ did in the 80s and ‘slacker’ in the 90s, to describe a pervasive trait in today’s society. This is partly due to the prevalence of narcissistic personality traits observed in various […]
Midlife Crisis in Men and Affairs: Is There a Link?
As men age, they often look back on the earlier years of their lives. Some feel a sense of fulfillment and relief. Some, however, feel some sort of wistfulness or even regret. Some feel lost, while some think they are missing out in life, and that they could be happier if they make drastic changes. These are the exact sentiments that often trigger a midlife crisis in men, and affairs often follow.
