Couple Goals for 2023: How to Make Your Love Blossom

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Couple Goals for 2023: How to Make Your Love Blossom

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As we start 2023, you may be one of many couples who commit to making resolutions to improve their marriage or love relationship.

One area that a lot of couples decide to work on relates to improving communication and your ability to resolve conflicts. When couples can effectively navigate challenging conversations and find solutions, they can build stronger, more fulfilling connections with each other.Find the best marriage counseling in nyc

Here are some tips to help you improve your communication and conflict-resolution skills in 2023:

  1. Start by setting a positive tone. It’s easy for conversations to quickly become hostile and heated, especially when there is conflict involved. Try to approach the conversation calmly and respectfully to prevent this from happening. Avoid blame and express your perspective rather than attacking your partner. A positive tone can help set the stage for a productive discussion.

  2. Listen actively. It’s essential to hear what your partner is saying and to understand their perspective. This means paying attention to what they say and asking clarifying questions if you need more information. Reflect on what you have heard to show that you are listening and trying to understand. This can help your partner feel heard and valued, which can go a long way in resolving conflicts.

  3. Use “I” statements. When we express “you” in our conversations with our partner, it can feel like an attack and make our partner defensive. Instead, try using “I” statements to express your thoughts, emotions, and needs. For example, instead of saying, “you always do this,” try reframing the idea as “I feel frustrated when I feel like I’m not being heard.” This takes the focus off of your partner and allows you to express your own feelings and needs without placing blame.

  4. Seek common ground. Even when there is disagreement, finding ways to come together and find common ground is essential. This might mean finding a compromise or a way to move forward that meets your needs. When couples find common ground, it can help them feel more connected to each other and more invested in finding a resolution.

  5. Call a “time out” when needed. Suppose the conversation is becoming too heated or emotions are running high. In that case, it can be helpful to take a break and return to it when you both feel calmer and more centered. This can give you time to process your thoughts and emotions and return to the conversation with a fresh perspective.

  6. Practice forgiveness. Conflicts will inevitably arise in any relationship, and it’s important to practice forgiveness when they do. This doesn’t mean condoning hurtful behavior but rather letting go of anger and resentment and moving forward. Holding onto grudges can harm a relationship, so working through conflicts and letting go of negative emotions is essential.

  7. Seek outside help if needed. If conflicts are frequent or seem impossible, it might be helpful to seek the use of a couples therapist. A therapist can provide a safe and neutral space for couples to work through their issues and learn new communication and conflict-resolution skills.

Effective communication and conflict resolution take practice and patience, but they are skills worth developing. As a couple, you can have more productive and positive conversations by following these tips, leading to better resolutions and a stronger relationship. Remember, it’s normal to have conflicts and disagreements in any relationship: how we handle them makes the difference.



  • Travis Atkinson

    Travis Atkinson, L.C.S.W., is the Director and Creator of the Loving at Your Best Plan. He has extensive training in marriage and couples therapy, based on over 27 years in practice, earning certificates from top-rated couples therapy models, including: *Certified Advanced Schema Therapist, Supervisor and Trainer for Individuals and Couples *Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and Supervisor *Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist *Certified Group Psychotherapist *Honorary Lifetime Member of the International Society of Schema Therapy Travis is a co-author of the latest schema mode therapy inventory, the SMI. He is also the co-author of two chapters in the recently published “Creative Methods in Schema Therapy: Advances and Innovation in Clinical Practice (Routledge, 2020) and author of “Schema Therapy for Couples: Healing Partners in a Relationship” in the Handbook of Schema Therapy (Wiley-Blackwell, 2012).

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