Parenting Conflicts in New York: The Hidden Emotional Patterns Sabotaging Your Relationship
Mastering Parenting Conflicts in New York: A Schema Therapy and Neural Integration Guide By Travis Atkinson, LCSW, Founder and Director, Loving at Your Best Couples Counseling and Marriage Therapy The Morning That Broke You: Understanding Parenting Conflicts in New York It’s 7:43 AM on a rainy Tuesday. You’ve been up since 5:30 preparing for your […]
Is Your Love or Marriage Stuck in a Rut?
When your marriage or relationship is in a secure place, something shifts. You can pause and actually observe what’s happening when you start to disconnect. From there, emotion regulation becomes possible. You can reflect on what the conflict means to each of you. Once you understand the meaning behind it, you can ask for what […]
Surviving turbulent times in your marriage or love relationship
We all want life to give us certainty, and we all desire a sense of permanence. At the same time, there are moments when we are faced with the reality that life is uncertain, and volatile. Even with the latest advances in medicine, and our eternal struggle for immortality, we still face a reality that at some point, we will lose loved ones around us, and eventually, we will die. Read more about how to navigate your longings and desires in a world where you are forced to face certain realities is an area that can challenge your well-being, and the connection in your marriage or love relationship.
How to Make Love Last: the 3-R’s of the Loving at Your Best Plan
At the Loving at Your Best Plan in NYC, we use the “3-R’s” to increase the security in your marriage or relationship. The 3-R process is: 1. Regulate your central nervous system to maintain your ability to adequately see yourself and your partner or spouse 2. Reflect on what is happening with yourself and your partner […]
How Can I Save My Marriage or Relationship?
You may be at the point where saving your marriage from divorce, or your relationship from separation, feels urgent. A good starting point: identify what closeness actually means to you and your partner. Research on how we connect with others has been ongoing for more than 50 years. Knowing your own patterns of connection can […]
When Couples Therapy Isn’t Working: What Your Therapist Might Be Missing
If you feel afraid of your partner, if you’re being physically harmed, or if your partner’s behavior includes threats, intimidation, or control over your finances, movement, or contact with friends and family, this article is not for you. Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org for immediate support. This article […]
Can You Reverse a Divorce?
Before you pursue a divorce, you must consider a few important things first. Can you reverse a divorce? It is one of the most common questions that you might encounter as you go through this long process. You must be sure that this is the path you would like to take if you choose to file for divorce.
Are you in a politically discordant marriage or love relationship?
Can an election, or a political party division, lead to divorce or separation? Do partners or spouses need to both be Democrat, Republican, or Independent for a marriage to survive? Should Kelly Anne Conway be concerned? Marriage and relationship research tells us that while partners who belong to the same affiliation are more likely to match, once they are in a relationship, political differences themselves don’t have to derail a marriage.
A love relationship breaks down over many factors, but they are quantifiable and predictable. When a couple enters a relationship, often the chemistry that attracts them can paint the partner in the most positive light, and blind them to negative aspects. For instance, one partner’s “lack of expression” in the beginning of the relationship is experienced as calming. As the relationship continues, the spell can turn to a surprising awakening that the partner is “cold” and dismissive.
What happy couples know
Happy couples know the details of each other’s lives Do you know the intimate details of your partner’s life? Do you know what they likes and dislikes, and what makes them happy and sad? What are their favorite movies, music, books, and activities? Dig into their work life too: do you know about their coworkers […]
Does Your History Matter?
What lessons did you learn from your family about emotions? Your caregivers communicated a belief about emotions, whether you realized it or not, that probably affects you today in your marriage or love relationship. How has this emotional philosophy affected you when you’ve experienced key moments of vulnerability in your life? Your family’s approach to […]
