Why Does Not Loading the Dishwasher Turn into Such a Big Fight?
As humans, we all have raw spots, or areas of sensitivity, that come from our temperament and our life experiences. In adult love relationships, your personal history with key caregivers, usually your parents and past romantic relationships, influences how you perceive situations with your partner or spouse now, especially when your partner or spouse does […]
4 Key Questions to Ask in Your Marriage or Love Relationship
A whole new science of love and connection has developed over the last two decades that helps 7 out of 10 distressed marriages or couples significantly repair their relationship, known as Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, developed by Sue Johnson, author of “Hold Me Tight.” Love doesn’t have to be a mystery anymore, and is […]
Are you in a politically discordant marriage or love relationship?
Can an election, or a political party division, lead to divorce or separation? Do partners or spouses need to both be Democrat, Republican, or Independent for a marriage to survive? Should Kelly Anne Conway be concerned? Marriage and relationship research tells us that while partners who belong to the same affiliation are more likely to match, once they are in a relationship, political differences themselves don’t have to derail a marriage.
A love relationship breaks down over many factors, but they are quantifiable and predictable. When a couple enters a relationship, often the chemistry that attracts them can paint the partner in the most positive light, and blind them to negative aspects. For instance, one partner’s “lack of expression” in the beginning of the relationship is experienced as calming. As the relationship continues, the spell can turn to a surprising awakening that the partner is “cold” and dismissive.
Is Your Partner Shutting You Out? How Can You Draw Him or Her Back In?
In your marriage or love relationship in NYC, do you sometimes feel like your partner or spouse is shutting you out ? Many times this is most apparent during or in the aftermath of a fight, when the shut down can be literal, which means, you’re shut out. Do you or your partner sometimes have […]
How Your Brain Protects You and Can Hurt You in Your Marriage or Love Relationship
In your marriage or love relationship, your mind wants to protect you from the possibility of abandonment, hurt, or betrayal that you may have experienced from a prior significant relationship. However, your brain is much more likely to keep you alive if it overestimates the links or associations between what is going on in your […]
How to Treat Your Valentine in New York: Pandemic Version
Just because your dinner reservations may be canceled doesn’t mean that connecting with your love is canceled too! Taking some time to recharge your romantic life may help reestablish some normalcy and comfort for both of you. If you’d like to do something special for your spouse or partner but don’t know where to get started because of the pandemic, check out these ideas to treat your other half to a beautiful Valentine’s Day – no Hallmark cards required.
Surviving turbulent times in your marriage or love relationship
We all want life to give us certainty, and we all desire a sense of permanence. At the same time, there are moments when we are faced with the reality that life is uncertain, and volatile. Even with the latest advances in medicine, and our eternal struggle for immortality, we still face a reality that at some point, we will lose loved ones around us, and eventually, we will die. Read more about how to navigate your longings and desires in a world where you are forced to face certain realities is an area that can challenge your well-being, and the connection in your marriage or love relationship.
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Dummies: Released Today!
We are excited to announce the publication today, July 29, 2013 of “Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Dummies” by Brent Bradley and James Furrow, a nice supplement to “Hold Me Tight,” the book by the creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Sue Johnson. You can purchase your copy in paperback now by clicking on the book […]
Caught in a Lovetrap? Clearing Up Blind Spots in Your Marriage or Love Relationship
What Are “Lovetraps,” and How Can They Get You Stuck in Your Marriage or Love Relationship? Have you ever interpreted something your partner or spouse did in a negative way, only later to find out you were either blowing things out of proportion, or simply wrong? If you’re like most humans, that is easy to […]
What happy couples know
Happy couples know the details of each other’s lives Do you know the intimate details of your partner’s life? Do you know what he or she likes and dislikes, and what makes him or her happy and sad? What are his or her favorite movies, music, television programs, books, and activities? What about his or […]
