Mid-Life Ma’amhood: The New Midlife Crisis for Gen X Women
We all have an image of what a straight man going through a midlife crisis looks like. He is desperately trying to remember what it was like to be young as he drives his new sports car as fast as possible down the street. Shotgun might be a young woman he just acquired after deciding […]
How to Stop the Blame Game in Your Relationship
Placing Blame in Relationships: A Persistent Problem By the time most couples seek therapy, we imagine the conflict has been brewing for one partner for a while. Rarely is it their first disagreement, and blame-based patterns have emerged. Partners often come to therapy feeling that the other person is to blame for all the problems […]
Why People Cheat: 3 Types of Affairs Unveiled
Welcome to the Central Park of Marital Bliss (Watch Your Step, There Are Rats) Picture your marriage like Central Park. The verdant oasis in the concrete jungle of New York City—where lovebirds flock for boat rides, couples snuggle under blankets during outdoor concerts, and wedding proposals unfold under starlit skies. It’s tranquil, scenic, and the […]
Unlock Couple Happiness: How Marriage Therapy Can Be The Key to Relationship Success
Marriages and love relationships face particular hurdles when living in New York City. The fast-paced lifestyle, long work hours, financial demands, and lack of space can strain marriages to the breaking point, much like trees bent to snapping. But, as a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist, I’d want to offer you some encouragement. For nearly […]
Is a Ghost from the Past Haunting Your Marriage or Love Relationship?
Ghosts from the past can be unwelcome intruders in your relationship Are you or your partner experiencing symptoms in your relationship that could be related to a history of trauma? A common exchange between a trauma survivor and their partner might sound like this: Pat: What? Are you serious? I just came up and gave […]
How to Deal with and Stop Anxiety from Ruining Your Marriage
It’s 11:47 on a Tuesday night. You’re lying in bed next to your husband, but he’s not really there. He’s somewhere inside his own head, cycling through the same worry he mentioned at dinner. And at breakfast. And three times yesterday. By now, you’ve tried everything. Reassurances were given. Listening became a full-time job. You’ve […]
Are You in Danger of a Relationship Breaker?
Headed for Disaster? In your marriage or relationship, are you and your spouse or partner headed for separation or divorce? You may find it hopeful to know that thousands of couples have been studied over 30 years to help us predict with up to 94% accuracy if a marriage or relationship is headed for disaster. In this […]
One Key to Succeed at Having a Miserable Relationship
Who makes the decisions in your marriage or relationship? Do you honor and respect each others’ feelings and opinions? Do you or your partner or spouse feel more like a passenger than a driver? Especially with men, if they allow women to influence them, their relationships are much happier and much less likely to lead […]
My Wife Lies to Me All the Time: What to Do with a Lying Spouse
Trust is one of the essential foundations of a relationship, especially a marriage. On the other hand, lying is one of the fastest ways to break that trust. If you’re in a situation where you ask yourself, “why does my wife lie to me all the time?” consider it to be a serious red flag.
Rebuilding Intimacy in a Struggling Marriage
Marriage is a challenging journey for many couples. Over time, couples may find themselves becoming distant and disconnected from one another. Intimacy in a relationship can be an important factor in keeping a marriage strong and healthy, but it can also be one of the first things to go when a couple is struggling. Rebuilding […]
