Why Does Not Loading the Dishwasher Turn into Such a Big Fight?
We all carry raw spots, areas of sensitivity shaped by temperament and lived experience. In a close relationship, these spots get activated more than anywhere else. They’re not weaknesses. They’re the residue of being human in proximity to someone who matters. Ask yourself the following questions to see if you have one or more of […]
2 Ways to Break Up Your Marriage or Love Relationship
How do you know if your marriage or relationship is off-course? When you can’t identify your own need for connection, or don’t know how to meet your partner’s, your reaction tends to fall into one of two categories: 1. Turning away from your partner or spouse, as you attempt to turn off your need for […]
How Do You Tell Your Story in Your Marriage or Relationship?
How you tell your personal stories reveals how you connect and attach in your closest relationships? You organize the experiences in your life through a voice that narrates a story inside your brain. The people closest to you as a child shaped how you tell your story as an adult. For most of us, our […]
ADHD Marriage Counseling: Why Regular Couples Therapy Isn’t Enough
You’ve tried couples therapy before. It made things worse. When one or both partners have ADHD, the experience leaves the ADHD partner feeling pathologized. The non-ADHD partner feels gaslit. “Just communicate better” doesn’t work when one brain can’t hold the conversation. You’ve read the articles. You know the patterns. Finding someone who knows what to […]
Can a Relationship Go Back to Normal After Someone Cheats?
Cheating impacts relationships in a significant way. There is a loss of trust and the feeling of hurt and anger from the spouse that was cheated on. It is an overwhelming mix of emotions and you don’t know how to make sense of them.
How to Deal with and Stop Anxiety from Ruining Your Marriage
It’s 11:47 on a Tuesday night. You’re lying in bed next to your husband, but he’s not really there. He’s somewhere inside his own head, cycling through the same worry he mentioned at dinner. And at breakfast. And three times yesterday. By now, you’ve tried everything. Reassurances were given. Listening became a full-time job. You’ve […]
How Do Adults Cope with ADHD in Relationships? ADHD Survival Skills in New York, NY
Consider yourself a modern-day Indiana Jones (fedora optional), traveling into the deep forest of ADHD-marriage and love relationship terrain. Your trusted sidekick has endless energy and ingenuity, resembling a caffeinated squirrel on a mission. But hold on! There’s quicksand, and your partner is sinking quickly. So it’s natural to worry, “Oh no, I’ll be swallowed […]
Codependent or Simply Dependent: What’s the Big Difference? Dependent Relationships
You’ve heard the word codependent thrown around plenty of times, but what does it mean in a marriage or love relationship? And what is the difference between being codependent and simply dependent on your spouse or partner? Are you in a dependent relationship?
What are your relationship deal breakers?
Did your man or woman pass your love test? When you met your partner or spouse, did they pass your “deal breakers” test? If you are like many couples, the chemistry that drew you to your partner may have been nature’s way of cementing the bond between you, and many of the items on your […]
What is the Most Common Theme You May Not Know You Have?
Do You Feel You Don’t Get Enough Affection, Warmth or Attention from Your Partner or Spouse? The most common mental filter people experience is also the most difficult for most people to identify. The symptoms of this schema include common feelings of loneliness, sadness, or bitterness without knowing why you’re experiencing them. Other symptoms include […]
