Do You Still Find Each Others Quirks Cute?
Do You Still Find Each Others Quirks Cute? In the beginning of your marriage or relationship, did you celebrate the differences between you and your spouse? For instance, did you like that your partner or spouse had his or her own interests, opinions, views, friends, and career? If you’ve been in your marriage or relationship […]
Advice on Relationships: Have We Met Before?
Do I Know You from Somewhere? What Draws You and Your Partner or Spouse Together Can Also Split You Apart Advice on Relationships: Have We Met Before? Whether you realize or not, the person you chose to be your partner or spouse most likely resembles, in some way, the person who raised us as a […]
Relationship Advice for Men & Women in NYC
Have You Lost that “Loving” Feeling in Your Marriage or Relationship? How long does it take to shift from feeling that intoxicated “in-love” feeling to feeling “in-love” in a committed relationship? For most of us, after about six months, we start to shift into the love that is much more rewarding, what we call companionate […]
How Far Back Can You Remember? Why Does It Matter So Much in Your Marriage or Relationship?
If you’ve been hurt in a past relationship, it can take many positive experiences to heal the old wounds. Perhaps someone who you counted on in the past betrayed you, or left you feeling alone when they didn’t understand what you were going through in a difficult time. Not surprisingly, your present partner or spouse […]
What is the Most Common Theme You May Not Know You Have?
Do You Feel You Don’t Get Enough Affection, Warmth or Attention from Your Partner or Spouse? The most common mental filter people experience is also the most difficult for most people to identify. The symptoms of this schema include common feelings of loneliness, sadness, or bitterness without knowing why you’re experiencing them. Other symptoms include […]
How Can I Save My Marriage or Relationship?
You may be at the point where saving your marriage from divorce, or your relationship from separation, feels urgent. A good starting point: identify what closeness actually means to you and your partner. Research on how we connect with others has been ongoing for more than 50 years. Knowing your own patterns of connection can […]
Relationship Advice for Women & Men: Are You Lonely?
“Two fears are ever present: the fear of being smothered, and the fear of being bad” Loving at Arm’s Length In your marriage or relationship, do you or your partner or spouse have a hard time staying connected and feeling close to each other? Do you often feel lonely in your relationship, even though you […]
How Do You Tell Your Story in Your Marriage or Relationship?
How you tell your personal stories reveals how you connect and attach in your closest relationships? You organize the experiences in your life through a voice that narrates a story inside your brain. The people closest to you as a child shaped how you tell your story as an adult. For most of us, our […]
Does Couples Counseling Work? A Key Tool
A key factor in couples counseling effectiveness is how each partner understands their own story. How do you understand what happens to you in your own life? Most likely, you tell stories to give meaning to the experiences that you have. Sharing stories with your partner builds a bond and deepens mutual understanding. We all […]
Am I Too Needy? The Anxious Partner in a Marriage or Relationship
Does your husband, wife, or partner accuse you of being “needy” in your relationship? Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed when your partner doesn’t respond the way you need? Do you ever want closeness with your partner, then end up pushing them away? In past relationships, when someone was genuinely available, did you get bored or […]
