How Can I Save My Marriage or Relationship?
You may be at the point where saving your marriage from divorce, or your relationship from separation, feels urgent. A good starting point: identify what closeness actually means to you and your partner. Research on how we connect with others has been ongoing for more than 50 years. Knowing your own patterns of connection can […]
Can You Reverse a Divorce?
Before you pursue a divorce, you must consider a few important things first. Can you reverse a divorce? It is one of the most common questions that you might encounter as you go through this long process. You must be sure that this is the path you would like to take if you choose to file for divorce.
Are you in a politically discordant marriage or love relationship?
Can an election, or a political party division, lead to divorce or separation? Do partners or spouses need to both be Democrat, Republican, or Independent for a marriage to survive? Should Kelly Anne Conway be concerned? Marriage and relationship research tells us that while partners who belong to the same affiliation are more likely to match, once they are in a relationship, political differences themselves don’t have to derail a marriage.
A love relationship breaks down over many factors, but they are quantifiable and predictable. When a couple enters a relationship, often the chemistry that attracts them can paint the partner in the most positive light, and blind them to negative aspects. For instance, one partner’s “lack of expression” in the beginning of the relationship is experienced as calming. As the relationship continues, the spell can turn to a surprising awakening that the partner is “cold” and dismissive.
What happy couples know
Happy couples know the details of each other’s lives Do you know the intimate details of your partner’s life? Do you know what they likes and dislikes, and what makes them happy and sad? What are their favorite movies, music, books, and activities? Dig into their work life too: do you know about their coworkers […]
Does Your History Matter?
What lessons did you learn from your family about emotions? Your caregivers communicated a belief about emotions, whether you realized it or not, that probably affects you today in your marriage or love relationship. How has this emotional philosophy affected you when you’ve experienced key moments of vulnerability in your life? Your family’s approach to […]
Why Does Not Loading the Dishwasher Turn into Such a Big Fight?
We all carry raw spots, areas of sensitivity shaped by temperament and lived experience. In a close relationship, these spots get activated more than anywhere else. They’re not weaknesses. They’re the residue of being human in proximity to someone who matters. Ask yourself the following questions to see if you have one or more of […]
2 Ways to Break Up Your Marriage or Love Relationship
How do you know if your marriage or relationship is off-course? When you can’t identify your own need for connection, or don’t know how to meet your partner’s, your reaction tends to fall into one of two categories: 1. Turning away from your partner or spouse, as you attempt to turn off your need for […]
How Do You Tell Your Story in Your Marriage or Relationship?
How you tell your personal stories reveals how you connect and attach in your closest relationships? You organize the experiences in your life through a voice that narrates a story inside your brain. The people closest to you as a child shaped how you tell your story as an adult. For most of us, our […]
Codependent or Simply Dependent: What’s the Big Difference? Dependent Relationships
You’ve heard the word codependent thrown around plenty of times, but what does it mean in a marriage or love relationship? And what is the difference between being codependent and simply dependent on your spouse or partner? Are you in a dependent relationship?
What is the Most Common Theme You May Not Know You Have?
Do You Feel You Don’t Get Enough Affection, Warmth or Attention from Your Partner or Spouse? The most common mental filter people experience is also the most difficult for most people to identify. The symptoms of this schema include common feelings of loneliness, sadness, or bitterness without knowing why you’re experiencing them. Other symptoms include […]
