4 Key Questions to Ask in Your Marriage or Love Relationship
A whole new science of love and connection has developed over the last two decades that helps 7 out of 10 distressed marriages or couples significantly repair their relationship, known as Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, developed by Sue Johnson, author of “Hold Me Tight.” Love doesn’t have to be a mystery anymore, and is […]
2 Ways to Break Up Your Marriage or Love Relationship
How do you know if your marriage or relationship is off-course? When you can’t identify your own need for connection, or don’t know how to meet your partner’s, your reaction tends to fall into one of two categories: 1. Turning away from your partner or spouse, as you attempt to turn off your need for […]
How to Make Love Last: the 3-R’s of the Loving at Your Best Plan
At the Loving at Your Best Plan in NYC, we use the “3-R’s” to increase the security in your marriage or relationship. The 3-R process is: 1. Regulate your central nervous system to maintain your ability to adequately see yourself and your partner or spouse 2. Reflect on what is happening with yourself and your partner […]
Why Does Not Loading the Dishwasher Turn into Such a Big Fight?
We all carry raw spots, areas of sensitivity shaped by temperament and lived experience. In a close relationship, these spots get activated more than anywhere else. They’re not weaknesses. They’re the residue of being human in proximity to someone who matters. Ask yourself the following questions to see if you have one or more of […]
How Your Brain Protects You and Can Hurt You in Your Marriage or Love Relationship
In your marriage or love relationship, your mind wants to protect you from the possibility of abandonment, hurt, or betrayal that you may have experienced from a prior significant relationship. However, your brain is much more likely to keep you alive if it overestimates the links or associations between what is going on in your […]
Caught in a Lovetrap? Clearing Up Blind Spots in Your Marriage or Love Relationship
What Are “Lovetraps,” and How Can They Get You Stuck in Your Marriage or Love Relationship? Have you ever read your partner’s behavior negatively, only to find you were blowing things out of proportion? If you’re like most humans, that is easy to answer. Past experiences shape how we see the present, even when that […]
How Can You Make Your Marriage or Love Last?
What Does a Lasting Love Look Like? When your marriage or love relationship is in a secure place, you’re able to pause and observe what is happening when you and your partner or spouse are getting stuck, regulating your emotions, and then reflecting on what the conflict between the two of you means for both […]
Do You Exercise in Your Marriage or Love Relationship?
Do you and your mate exercise together regularly? The single most important thing you can do for your health: physical exercise. How exercise and marriage or love relationships go together may not be clear to many people, but the literal effects are significant. Regular physical exercise can mean not only both you and your partner […]
Take Our Couples Quiz Now
How is your marriage or love relationship doing? Take our short 10 question quiz to get a sense of the strength of your bond now. It’s complimentary, and there’s not obligation. Simply click on the link, and you’ll be re-directed to our couples quiz. Answer each question (all 10 questions must be answered for the […]
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Dummies: Released Today!
We are excited to announce the publication today, July 29, 2013 of “Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Dummies” by Brent Bradley and James Furrow, a nice supplement to “Hold Me Tight,” the book by the creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Sue Johnson. You can purchase your copy in paperback now by clicking on the book […]
