Is Your Love or Marriage Stuck in a Rut?
When your marriage or love relationship is in a secure place, you’re able to pause and observe what is happening when you and your partner or spouse are getting stuck or starting to disconnect. You are able to regulate your emotions, and then reflect on what the conflict between the two of you means to […]
Inside Your Marriage & Love Relationship: Stories
Stories organize how you experience your life and are a key way to communicate your experiences to other people. How you tell your stories is based on how you see yourself. The narrator in your story filters the details, descriptions, and meaning of your experiences, and is shaped by culture, community, family, relationships, and events. […]
Have You Fallen Madly In Love?
View fullsize Doesn’t everyone want to fall madly in love? Do you try intensely to keep intimate, meaningful, and deep connections with a partner or spouse in your love relationships? Falling madly in love is part of a fantasy many people have to find their true “soul mate.” If you relate to this drive, […]
Does Your History Matter?
What lessons did you learn from your family about emotions? Your caregivers communicated a belief about emotions, whether you realized it or not, that probably affects you today in your marriage or love relationship. How has this emotional philosophy affected you when you’ve experienced key moments of vulnerability in your life? How your family and […]
Does Couples Counseling Work? A Key Tool
A key tool to help couples counseling work actually lies in how both a partner or spouse in a marriage or relationship tell the stories of who they are and what they’ve experienced in their lives. How do you understand what happens to you in your own life? Most likely, you tell stories to give […]
Do You Exercise in Your Marriage or Love Relationship?
Do you and your mate exercise together regularly? The single most important thing you can do for your health: physical exercise. How exercise and marriage or love relationships go together may not be clear to many people, but the literal effects are significant. Regular physical exercise can mean not only both you and your partner […]
Are you in an unpredictable marriage?
Can you count on your partner? The cost of being in a marriage or love relationship when you do not know whether you can count on your partner or spouse may surprise you. Tara Parker-Pope writes in the October 26, 2015 issue of the New York Times about new research from Brigham Young University showing […]
The Day After Tragedy, Let Us Remember Kindness
Before you know what kindness really is you must lose things, feel the future dissolve in a moment like salt in a weakened broth. What you held in your hand, what you counted and carefully saved, all this must go so you know how desolate the landscape can be between the regions of kindness. How […]
Helping Your Marriage Survive the Pandemic in New York
The pandemic has put a massive strain on the world as a whole. The COVID-19 virus is pushing our healthcare system to its breaking point, our education system is scrambling to adapt to the challenges of virtual learning models, and the tension of it all is affecting our marriages and love relationships.
How to Communicate Better in Your Marriage
If you and your partner/spouse feel that tension crops up in your lives more often than you’d like or feel that miscommunication is just a part of daily lives, you need to re-examine how you approach these issues as a couple. Rather than pushing further down the path that you’re on, just waiting for another inevitable argument, it’s time to change the way you communicate.
