Inside Your Marriage & Love Relationship: Stories
Stories organize how you experience your life and are a key way to communicate your experiences to other people. How you tell your stories is based on how you see yourself. The narrator in your story filters the details, descriptions, and meaning of your experiences, and is shaped by culture, community, family, relationships, and events. […]
Is Your Love or Marriage Stuck in a Rut?
When your marriage or relationship is in a secure place, something shifts. You can pause and actually observe what’s happening when you start to disconnect. From there, emotion regulation becomes possible. You can reflect on what the conflict means to each of you. Once you understand the meaning behind it, you can ask for what […]
What are the 4 S’s of a Healthy Marriage or Love Relationship?
How Can Your Marriage or Love Relationship in NYC Improve? Daniel Siegel’s new book, Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, is for more than just teenagers. In fact, understanding how the brain, the mind, and relationships interact can help everyone improve their marriage and love relationship. Watch this broadcast the Daniel Siegel […]
Is Your Partner Shutting You Out? How Can You Draw Him or Her Back In?
in your relationship in NYC, do you sometimes feel like your partner is shutting you out ? This often shows up most clearly after a fight, when one partner shuts down completely. Do you or your partner sometimes have a hard time staying connected and close to each other? If you reach out when afraid […]
What Helps You Deal With Stress?
View fullsize Can you turn to your partner when you are feeling sad, anxious, or bad? Your answer matters. Hint: they Probably Sleeps Next to You Each Night When you feel safe with your partner or spouse in your marriage or love relationship, your ability to cope with challenging situations is significantly strengthened. Despite […]
Does Your History Matter?
What lessons did you learn from your family about emotions? Your caregivers communicated a belief about emotions, whether you realized it or not, that probably affects you today in your marriage or love relationship. How has this emotional philosophy affected you when you’ve experienced key moments of vulnerability in your life? Your family’s approach to […]
What happy couples know
Happy couples know the details of each other’s lives Do you know the intimate details of your partner’s life? Do you know what they likes and dislikes, and what makes them happy and sad? What are their favorite movies, music, books, and activities? Dig into their work life too: do you know about their coworkers […]
Have You Fallen Madly In Love?
View fullsize Doesn’t everyone want to fall madly in love? Do you try intensely to keep intimate, meaningful, and deep connections with a partner or spouse in your love relationships? Falling madly in love is part of a fantasy many people have to find their true “soul mate.” If you relate to this drive, […]
Are you in an unpredictable marriage?
Can you count on your partner? Not knowing whether your partner will blow up at any moment has real costs, emotional and physical. A 2015 New York Times piece highlighted new research on the physical effects of relationship conflict.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/10/26/the-ambivalent-marriage-takes-a-toll-on-health/?_r=0″ target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>NYTimes). In twenty years of working with couples, this rings consistently true. The body can […]
Are you in a politically discordant marriage or love relationship?
Can an election, or a political party division, lead to divorce or separation? Do partners or spouses need to both be Democrat, Republican, or Independent for a marriage to survive? Should Kelly Anne Conway be concerned? Marriage and relationship research tells us that while partners who belong to the same affiliation are more likely to match, once they are in a relationship, political differences themselves don’t have to derail a marriage.
A love relationship breaks down over many factors, but they are quantifiable and predictable. When a couple enters a relationship, often the chemistry that attracts them can paint the partner in the most positive light, and blind them to negative aspects. For instance, one partner’s “lack of expression” in the beginning of the relationship is experienced as calming. As the relationship continues, the spell can turn to a surprising awakening that the partner is “cold” and dismissive.
