Caught in a Lovetrap? Clearing Up Blind Spots in Your Marriage or Love Relationship
What Are “Lovetraps,” and How Can They Get You Stuck in Your Marriage or Love Relationship? Have you ever read your partner’s behavior negatively, only to find you were blowing things out of proportion? If you’re like most humans, that is easy to answer. Past experiences shape how we see the present, even when that […]
Is Your Partner Shutting You Out? How Can You Draw Him or Her Back In?
in your relationship in NYC, do you sometimes feel like your partner is shutting you out ? This often shows up most clearly after a fight, when one partner shuts down completely. Do you or your partner sometimes have a hard time staying connected and close to each other? If you reach out when afraid […]
The 3 Most Important Things You Should Do for Your Spouse
Can you imagine what your marriage would be like if you could do three things to reignite, recharge, and revitalize your marriage? Think of the connection and compassion and love that you could light within each other before slight cracks become breaks? Your marriage and spouse are worth taking on that kind of support and contribution.
I put together a list of the three most important things you should be doing for your spouse so that you can rebuild, repair, and reignite the passion that brought you together in your marriage — stronger than ever.
Are your needs being met in your marriage or love relationship?
Scientists have identified seven inherent needs that exist in our brains. Read about how these needs can have a significant impact on your marriage or love relationship. First, what are these needs, and how much does it matter whether they are met? How do you stay balanced between your own needs, and the needs of your partner? Each need originates from nerve-based circuits in the brain that connect electrochemical signals, meaning nerve cells transmit messages to each other until specific parts of your body receive the information needed to perform the behavior to get your need met.
Am I Too Needy? The Anxious Partner in a Marriage or Relationship
Does your husband, wife, or partner accuse you of being “needy” in your relationship? Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed when your partner doesn’t respond the way you need? Do you ever want closeness with your partner, then end up pushing them away? In past relationships, when someone was genuinely available, did you get bored or […]
Does Couples Counseling Work? A Key Tool
A key factor in couples counseling effectiveness is how each partner understands their own story. How do you understand what happens to you in your own life? Most likely, you tell stories to give meaning to the experiences that you have. Sharing stories with your partner builds a bond and deepens mutual understanding. We all […]
Is Your Love or Marriage Stuck in a Rut?
When your marriage or relationship is in a secure place, something shifts. You can pause and actually observe what’s happening when you start to disconnect. From there, emotion regulation becomes possible. You can reflect on what the conflict means to each of you. Once you understand the meaning behind it, you can ask for what […]
Surviving turbulent times in your marriage or love relationship
We all want life to give us certainty, and we all desire a sense of permanence. At the same time, there are moments when we are faced with the reality that life is uncertain, and volatile. Even with the latest advances in medicine, and our eternal struggle for immortality, we still face a reality that at some point, we will lose loved ones around us, and eventually, we will die. Read more about how to navigate your longings and desires in a world where you are forced to face certain realities is an area that can challenge your well-being, and the connection in your marriage or love relationship.
How to Make Love Last: the 3-R’s of the Loving at Your Best Plan
At the Loving at Your Best Plan in NYC, we use the “3-R’s” to increase the security in your marriage or relationship. The 3-R process is: 1. Regulate your central nervous system to maintain your ability to adequately see yourself and your partner or spouse 2. Reflect on what is happening with yourself and your partner […]
How Can I Save My Marriage or Relationship?
You may be at the point where saving your marriage from divorce, or your relationship from separation, feels urgent. A good starting point: identify what closeness actually means to you and your partner. Research on how we connect with others has been ongoing for more than 50 years. Knowing your own patterns of connection can […]
